Imagine that as a young child, you were robbed; you were held up at gunpoint, by someone who demanded you hand over a valued possession.
I think we can all agree that would be terrifying! Right? But would you expect a child to feel ashamed or guilty that he/she gave the robber what was demanded? Of course not! Yet, kids who were sexually molested usually carry shame and guilt; they falsely believe they could have done something to prevent it.
When kids are molested, they are robbed; they are robbed of their innocence, their sense of safety and inner peace. They are also robbed of their voice.
In addition, when it comes to anyone’s childhood, what happened to them (even if it’s horrific) is less damaging than what they came to believe about themselves- because of what happened to them.
Kids who were molested have a hard time believing the truth. They struggle to fully grasp the facts: They are NOT responsible for the actions of a predator; they are NOT guilty, they are NOT dirty AND they have NO REASON to carry guilt or shame.
God’s Word says the truth will set you free – and it most certainly can. One of my greatest joys of working as a life coach, is helping men and women uncover the truth about their abuse. With some hard work, they can learn to connect with that little girl/boy within them, drop any shame and leave 100% of the responsibility with the predator. As a result, they can reclaim their peace and confidence.